Then you call your adult children, giddy with enthusiasm, and are shocked by the somewhat cool response of your kids.“That’s great, but I am not ready to meet him/her.” You hang up the phone and are stunned by the selfishness of your children!
In fact, many people feel confused, disappointed, and even angry when Mom or Dad steps back into the dating scene.
Like it or not, these adult children find themselves thrown back into unhealthy childhood dynamics: They may feel hurt and even abandoned by their parent’s actions but are powerless to do anything about them.
We envisioned starting our own church together one day.
My faith and the support I received from my church family helped sustain me after my husband’s death; they cried with me, laughed with me, cooked for me and prayed for me. Knowing the rules may make me more prudent, but it hasn’t allayed my fears. After all, I want my kids to grow up knowing who their father was and what he meant to me. My in-laws and my husband’s friends will be around.
I was happy that she had found a partner and companion - someone to go on dinner and movie dates with, to take to family functions, and yes, even to enjoy physical intimacy with again.