The next time you're walking around in Tokyo, try this quick experiment: look for couples comprising a Western man and a Japanese woman, and count them. Now look for the opposite: Japanese men with Western women. If we look at official statistics for Japanese residents from Western countries (as of the 2016 census), men certainly outnumber women in Japan—by a ratio of almost 2-to-1 if we exclude short-term residents and diplomats (it's 3-to-2 if they're included).
We'll bet a dinner and beer that the first case will far outnumber the second. However, let's take a closer look the difference for a moment.
You are probably wondering: if men are so simple, where’s the challenge in getting to know them?
Well, the real challenge with men comes much later, usually after marriage; I can imagine that is where his being a Japanese man might have some significance. To begin with, when you first meet a man who appeals to you, try to ascertain what kind of person he is and what his interests are.
In a new feature, our resident love-in-Japan writer Sara Who will be answering your questions on everything from dating rules to finding a partner to love, marriage and more. Why is it that foreign women are often only considered for dating or “a bit of fun” but rarely get taken seriously when seeking a committed relationship in Japan?
Our question this week is about how Japanese guys often see foreign women as a temporary fling rather than a serious potential partner.
If we go even further back to look historically at international marriages from 1965 to 2014, British grooms beat out British brides by a ratio of 12-to-1, while for the U. So the relatively closer ratios are, in fact, a recent correction.