No matter your age, the way to connect with a man in the “I think you’re hot and would be interested in going out with you” way is still to FLIRT, sister.When I suggest that to the over-40 single women in my dating workshops and coaching programs, I can see them cringe.A study in the found subjects who engaged in two minutes of mutual, unbroken eye contact each reported increased feelings of passionate love for the other.
Tell him when you agree with something he says; ask his opinion; let him suggest a book or restaurant; laugh at his jokes or tell him his business sounds interesting. Using your body to flirt does not have to be slutty or silly. Much of what attracted those boys in bars is still what attracts men in Starbucks or in your hiking club. Responding to this type of behavior from a woman is instinctive, ladies. He won’t even know what’s happening to him; he will just know he likes you. We aren’t used to talking about ourselves because we’ve been told it’s selfish and braggadocios. He’s only going to know how fabulous and confident you are if you get some of your shiny stuff out. Everyone says that, and it’s likely to be filed under the “maybe she’s just being polite” category. There’s a big difference between this and asking him out. You’ll get points in your dating karma bank by making him feel good about himself, and it will be easier to do it the next time with the guy who may be your perfect match.
Love, whether a life-long partnership or a night-long fling, is never easy.
I have news for you: Here is what you get when you don’t flirt with nice men: a nice conversation. You want to be seen as someone he will consider asking out. A sincere compliment in those areas will take you a huge step forward toward connection.
Here are four ways to flirt with flair and class…and get that date, and the next: 1. Have you ever noticed that we use compliments to connect with other women? (Ahem: note the word “sincere.”) You can tell him he has nice eyes, and he’ll appreciate it.
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