And all he gives you is a few-syllable text to explain himself.
We've all got work commitments, family commitments, social obligations, errands and workouts. But, can we be honest with each other here for a minute?
When I actually want to see someone, when he offers to hang out with me on a day I've already gotten plans in place, I rearrange my day to make time for him. My response is something along the lines of, “I'm supposed to do x and y, but if you want to do z in between, that'll work great for me.” Or, I'll budget him into my time for the next day.
But, when I don't care to see him, that's when I go with the “too busy” route.
We may be imagining all sorts of problems that may or may not exist or we’re rationalising our own boundaries, values, and even prior experiences of being in one of these situations (so knowing that we may struggle with the emotional consequences) and are thinking along the lines of, ‘Well…
I’m of a certain age so I need to prepare myself for turning a blind eye to any code amber / red actions and indications because people in this age group tend to be recently broken up / separated / divorced‘. There’s no easy answer to the question of what the ‘right time’ is for dating a separated or recently divorced person.
And we're all used to using that 24 hours in a day in specific ways, which we would probably consider as “busy.”For example, I wake up, shower, go to work, go to the gym for an hour, make dinner, then either attend social commitments, reconnect with my couch or run errands. And just like that, I've spent my 24 hours staying rather busy without batting an eyelash.